Do you ever talk to yourself? I know I do. I talk to myself all the time, and most of the time I am beating myself up. One of the biggest issues that we face with chronic illness is letting ourselves fall into a cycle of self doubt. We begin to form a wide variety of bad habits that cause us to lose hope, and hope is the only cure to our chronic illness.
In the past week I have been polling chronic illness fighters to understand what habits they have that need to change. I believe that the first step in self improvement is a realization that there are some habits that just need to go away. I will be the first to admit, I was overwhelmed with the feedback that I received. Hundreds of people responded with their top bad habits.
My hope is that you will take this list, and start to reflect on your own bad habits. I tried to summarize the feedback I received into a total of 43 tips you will find below. What habits do you need to change?
- Believing your thoughts are the truth.
- Feeling guilt and anxiety.
- Spending all of your time searching the internet about your illness.
- Blaming yourself for your illness.
- Worrying about what other people think.
- Explaining yourself to others.
- Making excuses.
- Staying in a non supportive relationship.
- Not laughing for fear that people may mistake your smile for feeling healthy.
- Eating unhealthy
- Letting your pain stop you from being mobile.
- Watching too much television.
- Worrying about tomorrow.
- Focusing on what you can’t do, concentrate on HOW you can do it!
- Comparing yourself to others with chronic illness.
- Not taking accountability for the things that you can change to improve your life.
- Selling your capabilities short due to fear.
- Not letting yourself love, live, and be happy despite the disease,
- Not living your life when it’s the only one we get.Top of Form
- Stressing out about limits.
- Pushing past your limits just because other people say you can’t.
- Calling yourself negative names when frustrated.
- Listening to other people that have NEVER been where you are.
- Using chronic illness as an excuse to stay disconnected from doing things you would like to do.
- Thinking that everything you feel is caused by your chronic illness.
- Hanging around negative and toxic people.
- Letting your illness define who you are. Only you can define yourself.
- Spending to much time on social media.
- Over thinking the “what if’s” in life. Chronic Illness affects each of us differently.
- Comparing yourself to your former self.
- Over doing it when you feel good.
- Saying sorry for every little thing you can not control.
- Letting people think you are disabled when you are a normal person.
- Having self doubts.
- Expecting your family and friends to understand what you’re feeling.
- Trying to accommodate other people’s needs.
- Denying or hiding your limitations.
- Thinking your disease is a weakness of character, you’re not lazy, you have a chronic illness.
- Staying up late at night. You have get regular sleep and enough of it.
- The all or nothing mentality, think PROGRESS.
- Asking “am I doing everything I can to help myself?” No one can do everything.
- Being a perfectionist and feeling like if you didn’t get something done you failed.
- Worrying about the future. Our thoughts can bring so much fear. Focus on Now.
Did I miss any habits that I should have included?? Lets build this list together. Comment below.
Let’s start to build a better life together,
Dave